What’s Your Why?
From the moment we’re born, life starts installing an operating system in us. Think of it like the default settings on a new phone—you didn’t choose them, but they’re there. Family, friends, teachers, and the community around us all contribute to this programming. They tell us what success looks like, what’s “normal,” and what we should strive for.
But here’s the thing: most of us never stop to check if those settings actually fit us. We just keep running the program.
Then one day, something changes. Maybe you hit a wall at work. Maybe you feel restless even though everything looks “fine” on the outside. That’s when you start asking the big question:
Why am I doing all this?
Your why isn’t your job title. It’s not your reputation. It’s not even the money in your bank account. Your why is the deep reason you wake up early, the thing that keeps you up at night because you can’t stop thinking about it. It’s the fuel behind your ambition—the thing that makes life feel meaningful.
How Do You Find Your Why?
1. Look Back at Your Best Moments
Think about times when you felt proud, fulfilled, or just plain happy. What were you doing? Who were you helping? Those moments are clues to what matters most to you.
Example:
Maybe you felt amazing when you helped a friend launch their business. That could mean your why is tied to empowering others.
2. Notice What Breaks Your Heart
What problems make you angry or sad? What issues make you say, “Someone should fix that”? Often, your why is hiding in the things you can’t ignore.
Example:
If you hate seeing kids struggle in school, maybe your why involves education or mentorship.
3. Ask “Why” Five Times
Start with a goal—like “I want to make more money”—and ask why. Then ask why again. Keep going until you hit the real reason.
Example:
“I want to make more money.”
Why? “So I can feel secure.”
Why? “Because I grew up without stability.”
Boom—you’ve uncovered a deeper why: creating security for yourself and others.
4. Define Your Core Values
Your why is rooted in what you stand for. Write down your non-negotiables—things like honesty, freedom, creativity, or service. These values will guide your purpose.
5. Test It
A real why makes you want to take action. If your why doesn’t light a fire under you, keep digging. When you find the right one, you’ll feel it.
Your Why Is Your Compass
When you know your why, decisions get easier. Obstacles feel smaller. And life stops feeling random—it becomes intentional.
So, what’s your why? Take 10 minutes today, grab a notebook, and start writing. You might be surprised at what you discover.
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